Dear Lexis,
I want to believe that everything is always working out for me, as you teach, but it just doesn’t seem to work. I feel like this belief is rooted in the belief that the universe is somehow sentient, that there is some kind of higher being looking out for us, but logically that doesn’t really make sense.
~ Nonbeliever
Dear Nonbeliever,
I understand that this belief can be a difficult one to adopt. We try to be realistic when dealing with the world and most of us have experienced enough pain to tilt our vision toward the negative. As a rule, we tend to live our lives avoiding pain rather than looking for joy.
That being said, we also know that the world is a large place, and all the dreams we hold, we hold because someone, somewhere, has achieved it. This indicates that anything we want is possible, and if it’s possible, we have the chance of achieving said goals.
So while the belief that everything is working out for you could stem from a sentient universe, it could also come from a belief that you have influence over your own life. By recognizing your own power, you decide to focus on the solutions rather than the problems and trust that the answer will come. I often ask the million-dollar question in moments like this: Who is more likely to get a million dollars? Someone who believes it’s possible and likely or someone who thinks it an impossible dream?
The belief that everything works out for the best is the acknowledgment that there are more paths to success that you haven’t yet seen. In essence, the belief that everything is working out for the best comes from you surrendering your worry and choosing to trust that the solution will come eventually.
To help you shift your thinking in this direction though, here are a few concepts for you to consider.
Scientific research indicates that photons can present as both waves and particles based upon conscious focus. The double slit experiment indicates that when there is an observer, light behaves differently than it does when there isn’t one. The addition of meditaters to the experiment showed that individuals, focusing on a specific result, can achieve said result through mere thought.
And while light might not seem like much, matter makes up only 0.001% of life, the rest being energy. If we can alter the way in which energy presents with a thought, who knows what we are truly capable of.
This concept deals primarily with the natural life states. We live far more often than we die. Illness is considered unnatural compared to the average of wellness. When forced into a corner, most escape.
The fundamental state of life is creative, healthy, and loving (indicating a sentient universe). Death, while tragic, is shockingly rare compared to life. So, if you’re worried that something will kill you, odds are it won’t. And if it doesn’t kill you, that means you will find a way out; it’s inevitable.
If the above concepts aren’t helping you, consider turning to the universe for evidence. You may not believe in a higher being, or a sentient universe, but what’s the harm in asking for evidence to support a belief you hope to hold one day.
At the very least, you’ll be focusing your mind on a task and, over time, you will begin to see the plethora of possibilities that lay before you in any given moment. And once you see those possibilities, you will certainly start to believe in your own ability to achieve your dreams.
If none of the above helps, you still have the option to entirely ignore reality if you wish. I know you may not like this idea, but realistically what’s the harm in believing something that isn’t empirically true if it benefits your life in real, tangible ways.
The belief in Santa is an example I use often because people tend to laugh at you if you claim such a belief. But, what’s the harm? A belief in Santa could increase your chances of living a moral life, may provide you with the hope that your efforts will be rewarded, and enliven your life with wonder and awe at the possibilities that exist. The downside? People might laugh at you. The benefits seem worth it to me.
Any way you look at it, a belief that everything is working out for the best serves you better in the long run. So whether you have to delude yourself, or whether you can utilize and/or find logical reasons to chance your perspective, it is worth the effort overall. You can change this belief if you want to. The question is, do you want to?
I wish you luck and a lifetime of wonder,
~ Lexis
Alexis Baker writes from her home in Olympia. Write to her at Lexis@theJOLTnews.com
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