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Lexis,

I agree with your opinion that emotional care of a damaged soul should result in developing a trusting, healed person who will be able to socialize and live within our society.

However, I also know that some people are sociopaths who do not have empathy. For whatever reason, a sociopath cannot understand the emotions of others and do not relate to others on the same empathetic reciprocal way that most people do. Most of us are raised to have thoughts of caring for the feelings of those around us, to be aware of the needs and hurts that others experience. Sociopaths just don't know or relate to other people's emotions or care about them. No amount of kindness will lead them into an understanding that the needs of other people should be important to them.

I'm speaking from the experience of living with a sociopath for over 52 years. I tried to please this person, to make this person happy with me, to keep this person from abusing me and controlling me. After 52 years I realized that nothing I could do would ever change him. He simply did not think the way other people did. He had no empathy toward other people or care how other people hurt inside. He only cared about himself and controlling people. He was highly intelligent in manipulating people into thinking he was kind and caring, friendly and fun. But he could hurt and wound those closest to him with the sharpest words meant to kill a soul and give himself the satisfaction of control.

Trusting and loving and giving one's self to a sociopath cannot help that person become a loving and caring human being. It doesn't work on someone whose mental faculties don't work on the same levels as the rest of us. There just is something missing inside that doesn't get "fixed" by loving support. I learned the hard way.