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Gratitude as gratitude for spiraling

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Dear Lexis,

I feel like my life is spiraling out of control. Nothing seems to be going right and there doesn’t seem to be anything I can do about it. Health issues, car issues, and money issues all seem to be piling up and new ones seem to pop up on a regular basis. I know you said we should just trust that the fall will end eventually, but it kind of feels like I’ve been falling for years, and there’s no end in sight. Is there anything I can do to take back control?

Thanks,

Spiraling in Olympia

Dear Spiraling,

I’m sorry to hear that life has been so hard for you lately. I’m not sure why these extended periods of suffering occur at times, but I’m very familiar with your situation. It can be really hard to trust that things are working out when new issues just keep popping up. And while I can promise that the rain will stop eventually, I do know of a technique that can help you through these challenging times.

I call it Dream Life Practice. I know the name sounds a little fruity, but it’s actually more literal than fantastical, so hang in there for a moment. I learned this technique from Joe Dispenza, and it’s drastically improved my daily life on many occasions. Essentially, what you do is incorporate the concepts of meditation into your daily life. Hence the dream and life reference.

And while meditation can drastically improve your ability to utilize this practice to its full extent, it isn’t necessary.

Step 1: Think about what you want.

A common practice for those interested in spirituality, this step primarily consists of writing down exactly what you want. Go into the details if you want, but don’t list a completion date.

This lack of a goal date is unique to Joe Dispenza, but he insists that it’s important not to list a specific date or time for this goal to be accomplished. Given the evidence behind his work, I’d recommend going with it.

Step 2: Think about how that desired result would make you feel.

Try to feel what emotions you would feel if you had what you wanted. You’ll know if you’re doing this step correctly if there is a smile on your face. It doesn’t matter which emotion: love, hope, joy, delight, ease, safety.

If you can’t figure out what you would feel, utilize gratitude as gratitude is one of the future-drawing emotions (aka gratitude makes your brain think that what you’re experiencing is in the present even when it isn’t).

Step 3: Hold on to that feeling and repeat as needed.

The first two steps are all about getting your heart and head into a state of coherence (which coincidentally can drastically improve your physical health), and this step is about maintenance.

Keep that positive emotion going as long as you can, and continue to practice as things come up that disrupt you. 

And while I cannot promise that you’ll get the specific desired result (although Joe says you will if you keep practicing until it does appear), I can promise that this practice will make you feel so much better, despite the circumstances around you.

Sure, this doesn’t change anything about the struggles of today, but it does provide you with a fresh, unjaded perspective that is likely to help you deal with issues as they arise.

It can seem kind of frivolous to work on improving your mood given the struggle, but even if all it does is stop you from snapping at your loved ones, I’d say it’s worth the time.

Overall though, it’s likely that this practice will cause drastic improvements in your life, both emotionally and circumstantially. By improving your mood, you improve your vision, enhancing your problem-solving capabilities. Keep going, and there’s nothing you can’t accomplish.

I hope this helps, and I wish you luck.

~ Lexis

Joe Dispenza website: Click here.

Lexis is Alexis Rae Baker. She writes from her home in Olympia.   Got a question about life, relationships, spirit?  Visit her at lexisrae.com or write to Lexis at  Lexis@theJOLTnews.com 

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